Renewed Enthusiasm

So yeah! I have been “out” for so long.. I have a lot of things that went right and wrong during those times but still here I am blogging, trying hard to make my family’s life more comfortable for the future. I have been losing faith on what I’m doing the past month or so but now, I think that I have some kind of  “Renewed Enthusiasm”.

Definitions:
Renewed.

v. re·newed, re·new·ing, re·news

v.tr.

1. To make new or as if new again; restore: renewed the antique chair.

2. To take up again; resume: renew an old friendship; renewed the argument.

3. To repeat so as to reaffirm: renew a promise.

4. To regain or restore the physical or mental vigor of; revive: I renewed my spirits in the country air.

5.

a. To arrange for the extension of: renew a contract; renew a magazine subscription.

b. To arrange to extend the loan of: renewed the library books before they were overdue.

6. To replenish: renewed the water in the humidifier.

7. To bring into being again; reestablish.

v.intr.

1. To become new again.

2. To start over.

*Taken from: http://www.thefreedictionary.com/renewed

Enthusiasm.

n.

1. Great excitement for or interest in a subject or cause.

2. A source or cause of great excitement or interest.

3. Archaic

a. Ecstasy arising from supposed possession by a god.

b. Religious fanaticism.

*Taken from: http://www.thefreedictionary.com/enthusiasm

IF you had time to read on those definitions then, you are welcome that I gave you that knowledge and if not, just go on reading this and maybe you can get what I mean with what I meant by “Renewed Enthusiasm”.

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Yup! Renewed Enthusiasm about family, life, business, studies, among other things. Just a general feeling of enthusiasm, something to look forward to in the future. With FUTURE meaning at least 5-10 years from now and it looks promising. What I was thinking was that if I can set up the general foundation now for my family specially my children, they would have at least a “good life”, a more comfortable life than what we have now, which is.. Can I say? Optimistic for the future? Yup. I think that’s the right word for it. I have said it about almost amounting to a million times to myself and to those who are close to me that there will always be a silver lining after this, heavy heavy storm that we are experiencing now. There is no other way from it or to it? hmm.. Maybe I’m just not generally a negative-thinker, but without the plans and strategies for the success that we will eventually have in the future makes me very optimistic.

I would show you(the reader) a little run-down to my future plans which are doable. Doable for me and may as well be doable for anybody.

See you on the next blog! SomeDay Soon!

How to be someone else

Love the team, hate the management

So yeah! Sometimes on somedays I want to be someone else. Does it help my cause of being a better version of myself? Yes? I don’t know. But here’s the thing, nobody is going to notice it and they’ll view that as you being you. 

Weirdly.

Now I’m not the best example of being a unique person. I try to emulate what my dad is doing, up to now he is still doing something for us. For me, my dad is the single-best-super-human being in my mind. He is simply my hero as a child up to now.

However, no matter how much I try to impress my dad. I can’t seem to live up to expectation. Because I know deep inside that I’m not perfect and I do make a lot of mistakes. Even I am kidding myself with the word “a lot”, because that’s an understatement. I make even more than that.

Believe me. 

So enough about that, let’s talk about sports! Yup, that’s where I’m good at. Have you ever heard of people yelling out “Curry!”, “Kobe!”, and a lot more. I’m a fan of all the NBA players. But I try to be like them when we play basketball like once a week for 2-3 hours under the hot sun. That’s good emulation if only I was a little bit taller then I could have competed at a higher level here. But the sad truth is, I didn’t. The talent and skills are there but the height that is required here to play on a higher level, well NO.

Anyway, I’m sad enough as it is. But that doesn’t stop me from yelling names of old NBA players who I tried to emulate when I was younger and I tell you I have talent though I got old and slow and PHAT, okay?! I’m a dad, okay! No excuses, I did let myself go for a little and put on “some” weight. Which means that my leap is not as high anymore, I’m slower, can’t bend as much, but I make do with my power and skill. 

Another day another blog. See you on the next blog SomeDaySoon!

Overactive Imagination

So yeah! I’ve been imagining things again. The past, how it happened and how it affects the way I am today. There are things that we wished to have happened differently now that you’re all grown up and know better. I am one those people who wish to have done differently when I was younger, The “I should have done that! I should have done this!”. But it doesn’t mean that I don’t like the life I have right now. I love my life right now, my wife and kids, are the best thing that ever happened to me. Some people, I’m one of those, who also thinks that I should have done this or that to have given myself the right state of mind and in the right some sort of right financial strategy to better take care of my family. Honestly, I could have been one of those, What could have been, the potential is almost limitless. But to think that, I would be like this, like a fly on the wall. I never did measure up to what was expected of me, I’ve never had any regrets to anything that I’ve done in the past. I am proud of what I am, I am proud that I have my own family at a young age. I can take care of my family, well not the best dad, but I try to be the best dad to my kids everyday, the best friend and best husband to my wife., the best brother to my brother and sister, the best son to my parents. People may love me or hate me the way I am, but I chose to be like this. This is the way I am, the past, the present, and the future, this is the path I chose and this is my life is destined to be.

This is me. (not the song)

Definitions

So yeah! Definitions! It’s the science of how we define things in our everyday life. Why do we do it? I don’t know. But do we need it? Yes! So let’s define one word or phrase or some kinda jumbled up word.

False Accomplishments.

False and Accomplishment. Totally opposite words. But what about it? How do you define it? For me, of course this is my blog and topic for today, it is something you wanted to do but nobody ever saw you do it. This means you did something unbelievable and it turns out to be really unbelievable. What a cruel world we live in, right? Yes? No? Alright. Let’s dig in deep to this word some more! Here we go!

I’ll give an example, you and your partner, had a recent falling out period and on this period. You decided to smoke again(if you’re a smoker that is, I’m not btw), just something to brag about with your friends, tough guy talk, but did you really win with the falling out period because you went back smoking? Nope. But did it feel good, for yourself esteem maybe. Face it, your ego was hurt by the falling out period and that’s why you did that. I, for one, do this sometimes. But I do drink liquor so so so far in between, I mean I like drinking but I don’t like to wake up the next morning feeling worse than what I felt before that.

False accomplishments are often petty and are just temporary boosts to your ego, but it does not change the fact that I, we, you, are built to do the right thing in the end. Maybe these false accomplishments just represents what you wanted but what you really need it someone to notice you. A cry for help, perhaps? No, I think it’s deeper than that. I want you to carry on about your life like what you were meant to do. Wo-Man Up!

Slacking..

So yeah! I have not been posting much blogs the past few days but I’m not slacking though.. I write on my phone app but for some reason, when I save what I’ve wrote it did not save as unpublished or as a draft. So it’s all gone now, I have to remember it all for the meantime. I mean they’re not high quality articles but those are some things that I wanted to share to you, my reader. I do care about you and I want to provide as much content/blog everyday.

Thank you for still reading and liking this blog! See you on the next blog SomeDay Soon!

Slow days

So yeah! Slow days! Do you ever have that feeling that days are so slow? And sometimes days or hours are so fast? Yeah. That’s right. I know how you feel.

Going back to the first question I made. The days, the hours, and the minutes seems so slow-moving that it’s dragging. And do you know why? I don’t. But I do have an explanation and here it is. The main reason time slows down in your perspective is that it has the element of anticipation, it has the element of looking unto the future, perhaps, but it’s mostly anticipation in my case.

Time slows down for me when there is something I look forward to but it’s on like after 2 or more week. The first week of waiting, my Gosh! I tell you, it’s going to be the longest 7 days, 168 hours, 1,080 minutes of my life! It’s like when you first heard of the plans for a trip or something will arrive to you or for you. Tick tock! Time slows down. The 7 days becomes a constant reminder of your agony waiting for those few days to pass by. Anyway, yes! Anticipation is the cause of misery when time slows down.

While I am ranting how time slows down, there is also a way to speed things up. Do you know how? I know how! It’s stress. Stress makes you old. I look older now than I look before and it’s been only 3 years since I look younger than my age. Right now, I look like a mess. I look old(er). Stress gets you that way like these: deadlines, not sleeping, bills, money problems, irregular sleep schedules of the kid(s) you have, pollution, weather, and a lot more that makes you stress. It will pump your blood with nonsense. Well, not totally nonsense but it makes your fill up with misery that you will eventually

The benefits of a Good Relationship

So yeah! Today I’m going to talk about the benefits of a good and healthy relationship. A good relationship does not always mean to your partner but also to all the other people around you. Like your family, kids, friends, and to whomever you have a close relationship. These are some of the tips that I want to share with you, my reader/s:

 

Trust-worthy. You should be true to your word. Never going back to your words, always remember that your words are what represents you and your personality.

Admit mistakes. I know I know, you don’t make mistakes but if you do and when you do. You should apologize and just admit your mistakes. Admitting that you were wrong takes a lot of courage and humility perhaps, that could save your relationship. But that’s the thing, right? Apologizing is that HARD!

When you do apologize don’t start to blame the other person whom you’re apologizing because that does not work.

Listen. Just listen and be a friend. Listening takes skill and patience, when you get stuck with one person telling you something that is very deep and important to him/her. Just listen, endure and relate. Why? Because you’re human, and he/she is human and who can he/she relate to? Nobody but you. That’s why!

Encourage. When that person is down. You should come and pick him/her up. Nobody like a downer, a simple words of encourage could come a long way. It will not only encourage him/her but he/she will thank you for that in the future. Maybe not in words but in actions, you’ll have a deeper relationship with him/her because of that.

Support. Every person who has ever had friends, family, wife and kids has that time when he/she has a “lost moment”. Having a lost moment usually happens when he/she can’t decide. We all have that, and some people ask other people for advice. Advice, what a weird thing to say other people when you yourself also does not know what to do when that time comes. Anyway, when you do give advice, you’d think that they’ll follow what you’re saying but nope! They don’t! So what you’ll do is, this usually happens when you do give advice: You give your advice addressing the problem and by gosh that was good advice. Some of the best advice that you will ever give one person in your standards. They listen attentively, but do they do it? No, they don’t. Because when they do ask for advice, they have already set their plans/advice for themselves. So what will you do in your end? Yup, that’s right. Support them, just support them with whatever they do.

Communication. Constant communication, communicating with other people are one of the few things that are somewhat enjoyable. Like asking, “How’s it doing, How’s life treating you? What are you doing now for livelihood, money, family, children?”. You can even hear gossip that you don’t give a what about. Communicate with other people. There’s no other way other than that. Communicate by email, text, call, or any other modes you have. That will create a “bridge” that you may have forgotten from your past relationships.
That’s all for today! See you next time!

Sunday Breaks!

So yeah! I had to have breaks on a Sunday because, here in our house. Sunday’s are family days! We take our time every Sunday to reflect on the week and we go to church. But this Sunday was special, because my wife cooked dinner for us! It’s a “shabu-shabu”. These are some of the pictures that were taken:

Some veggies, I mean one single vegetable is added to our “shabu-shabu”. It’s called “pechay” here cause I forgot what is the english word for it. Anyway, she mixed in crab sticks, crab balls, and urchin balls. Which is soooo good!

We started with this!

1 chicken cubes for 4 glasses of water, minced garlic and sliced onions and extra virgin oil. We try to be healthy. First, you have to  saute the garlic to have the garlic-y taste for the soup. Because we love garlic! We like the smell and taste of it.

After the garlic-y has been properly toasted, she added 4 glasses of water with chicken cubes and also the onion slices. The chicken cubes has to be melted through the boiling water. We use an induction cooker by the way if you’re wondering what that “800” is indicating.

After that, it’s the most easiest thing! She just boiled all the ingredients, the balls and the crab meat are sent to a boil until cooked. After it’s cooked, she just put it in the single vegetable, “pechay”, and waited for it to be a little wilted on the boiling water. After all that process, she woke me up and I ate the 2 bowls of it. Yummy and healthy!

Oh by the way, the noodles are colored because it’s a different kinds of vegetable noodles. Carrots, Malunggay, Egg, among others. It’s good, any one of you should try it!

Have you achieved what you wanted for your life?

So yeah! Today’s blog is going to be about achievements, successes, accomplishments that I had in my life in the present. And the answer is NO! It’s a big phat no, well yes, I did accomplish “things” in life. But the deep-rooted “WANT” that I really want to achieve has not yet been fully achieved, and that is to be a practicing lawyer, a businessman, and to travel other countries with my family. I am getting older and “wiser” as they say, but that doesn’t change the fact that I haven’t achieved anything that I want in life.

I aspire for bigger things and life, and I can’t stop dreaming, dreaming BIG! is the main thing and I think the main purpose of a person who is living. I think that, the moment you stop dreaming is the time that you ended your “life” and your “existence” is not needed in this life.

It doesn’t mean that you’re dead or anything, it just means that since you don’t have something look forward to then there is no getting excited everyday because you know in yourself that you’re doing this thing that you do for something.

There are things in my life that I had to put on hold because my family needs me. I kept thinking that, since I am young then, I can just go back to chasing my dreams once my family gets settles. I did go back to chasing those dreams and I think that I’m on the right track. The problem is that, I am getting old FAST! I keep thinking to myself that there is always some silver lining to this! It’s taking a big toll on me, not on my family because my classes are at least at nights when my family is resting. I’m out here hustling and trying hard not to fail.

Well, the simple truth is that I know I can still do things! I am not that old but I’m getting to that point but not right now! You know what I mean? I still have time because the real end-goal that I want for myself is to become a legislator in my country. That’s the ultimate dream, yup, I’m no dummy. I have plans and ideas for my country to be great and I just want to be in the mix of things in the government.

That’s it! It’s a start for this kinds of blogs, May I ask anyone of you reading this. What have you done in your life right now that is brag-worthy? What is your ultimate goal?

New addition: meme discussions!

So yeah! I had to think up of a way to schedule my week for the blog. So I was thinking.. I am already on the internet almost the whole day everyday! I am always seeing these things pop out on the videos that I watch! Yes ohhh yes! Memes! Yup, I’m doing meme days now. What I’ll be discussing here are the nature and/or origin of the said meme that I will be posting here on the blog as my featured image. The meme becomes my featured subject for the blog and because memes are not forever, and like water. I go with the flow of trends and ride it. I just ride the tide until the tide is no more. That’s the plan! Mostly. That’s my announcement for today’s blog, I’ll be discussing one meme later on if I could find one. Who am I kidding? There’s always a meme for everyone, and there’s a new meme “invented” everyday! So this is, I think going to be fine. I’m fine! Some comic relief will do anyone good to relieve the stress in life. 

Everyday Things – 001

So yeah! Today I’m going to blog about everyday things that has happened to me. Well, today was “ride a cab” day with me and my son going to his school. I have my bag for my work and I usually work at a mall’s food court, preferably in front of a store because it makes the place more “homier” to me. I did a lot in those couple of minutes, made images for this blog, my client’s blog, podcasts, and videos. I want to learn more, I may be getting hmm.. not younger but I still want to learn. If I have a chance to learn something new, I will try and learn it as fast as I can because I really like technology and learning about trends. I don’t want to be left out on things that may be important in the future. I remember the time, when there was only pagers and there was no mobile phones before. I thought that was the coolest thing ever, paging somebody and actually meeting them in that place that was sent to you. Well the pager wasn’t mine but it was owned by my dad. I held it though, and I really liked it. I was a kid back then, but now look at where we are right now. Not only mobile phones, but smart phones! Gone are the pagers and those big phones with the big antennas.

I’m getting off-topic here, so yeah! I wanted to buy shoes, basketball shoes! Because my shoes is not just a little torn-up but a lot torn-up! The foam of the sole is already visible under my shoes so I canvassed similar high cut shoes awhile ago and to my surprise, it was not that expensive. Maybe because it’s not the classic basketball shoes that I wear, but I really really like it. I hope nobody buys before I do. I still have 2-3 weeks to earn that kind of money from my work(I don’t earn much, that’s why). I do play basketball once a week nowadays though, I have kids and my friends have work, and I really can’t accommodate anything other than that one day of free time. I play with my high school friends and some of the new friends I gained from playing basketball. It’s a good camaraderie between all of us, it’s like a brotherhood of people who are a lot busy and still learning how to be a “grown up”. We all have different jobs, different lives, but we meet on that one day to talk and ask how we are doing and more. We are still very much involved with each other’s lives. At least, I have that thing going for me. I usually stay at home, work and play with my kids most of the time.

Anyway, enough of thinking about the past or what we could have done to change what we have today. We have to look forward into the future, because the present is most important, the future can wait.

How to become the best “best friend” to your wife

So yeah! I have to admit that I am not the best husband and I haven’t been best friends with my wife. I cannot tell you how many times we fought for nonsensical things in our daily life that frankly, it’s getting too old and tiring. It makes you want to give up on the relationship, but still don’t because of the love you have for each other. So I’m going to share some things I’ve learned in the short time(7 years and counting) we’ve been together.

These are the things that you should practice in your daily married life. Heck, you can even practice this on your girlfriends. Again, these tips are only guides to keep you and your partner happy.

Be honest. Being honest to your partner as you do your friends, well your wife/girlfriend is also your friend. Don’t keep secrets from your partner as it will only hurt your relationship in the long run. It will only be harder to tell when you hide it for so long. Just be honest and everything will turn out fine. Your wife will appreciate you more, being honest with him/her.

Be positive. This is a big problem of mine, I am a very positive person and I always look on the bright side of life. Yes, that is either a blessing or a curse for the reason that I always look on the good side of people even when they’re very bad or getting worse already.

I look past that and stay at the time when that person is not like that before. Looking on the positives is a good thing but realizing that there is something wrong with the “perfect” picture that I painted for myself is not always the right thing to do. I’ve learned that it’s good  to positive all the time but on the hard times that you will have with your partner are the best ones because it will force you to grow not only as a person but also in your relationship.

Be free. Freedom! We seek for freedom, we love to be free. We are all different people, each one of us. The simple fact is that, we were not always tied up to a partner when we were growing up as kids. But we also have to remember that being married or being taken, does not always translate that we have to give up everything who we are. We have to find balance in our lives even if you do have kids(yes, that’s with an “s”), but it’s going to be taxing on you and your partner if you can’t feel rejuvenated or relax with friends once in a while. Besides, this time apart from each other, will cause you and your partner to be excited to see each other again. It will be good either way.

Be sweet. I know, I know! You were sweet, you were dreamy, you were this and that. But how about now? Yes, you can’t be sweet and surprising all the time. But you have to find time and spend some time to be sweet by writing a simple and short letter(if that’s your thing because that’s my thing), plan dinner or if you can cook pancakes or your partner’s favorite food. Then you can start with that, those simple things will mean much more to your partner, even if he/she does not show it to you right. Because the funny thing about giving gifts, there will be an unseen pressure to your partner that he/she has to somehow top it like “Wow, that was a good one. I’ve got to top that!”

Trust. Trust and Love. That’s all you need to complete your tools for a better relationship(in my opinion). Do the right thing, having somebody to trust and somebody who trusts you back are the two great things that you can have in this world. It motivates you to do better and as a man, it will make you feel like your Superman.

 

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