So yeah! I have to admit that I am not the best husband and I haven’t been best friends with my wife. I cannot tell you how many times we fought for nonsensical things in our daily life that frankly, it’s getting too old and tiring. It makes you want to give up on the relationship, but still don’t because of the love you have for each other. So I’m going to share some things I’ve learned in the short time(7 years and counting) we’ve been together.
These are the things that you should practice in your daily married life. Heck, you can even practice this on your girlfriends. Again, these tips are only guides to keep you and your partner happy.
Be honest. Being honest to your partner as you do your friends, well your wife/girlfriend is also your friend. Don’t keep secrets from your partner as it will only hurt your relationship in the long run. It will only be harder to tell when you hide it for so long. Just be honest and everything will turn out fine. Your wife will appreciate you more, being honest with him/her.
Be positive. This is a big problem of mine, I am a very positive person and I always look on the bright side of life. Yes, that is either a blessing or a curse for the reason that I always look on the good side of people even when they’re very bad or getting worse already.
I look past that and stay at the time when that person is not like that before. Looking on the positives is a good thing but realizing that there is something wrong with the “perfect” picture that I painted for myself is not always the right thing to do. I’ve learned that it’s good to positive all the time but on the hard times that you will have with your partner are the best ones because it will force you to grow not only as a person but also in your relationship.
Be free. Freedom! We seek for freedom, we love to be free. We are all different people, each one of us. The simple fact is that, we were not always tied up to a partner when we were growing up as kids. But we also have to remember that being married or being taken, does not always translate that we have to give up everything who we are. We have to find balance in our lives even if you do have kids(yes, that’s with an “s”), but it’s going to be taxing on you and your partner if you can’t feel rejuvenated or relax with friends once in a while. Besides, this time apart from each other, will cause you and your partner to be excited to see each other again. It will be good either way.
Be sweet. I know, I know! You were sweet, you were dreamy, you were this and that. But how about now? Yes, you can’t be sweet and surprising all the time. But you have to find time and spend some time to be sweet by writing a simple and short letter(if that’s your thing because that’s my thing), plan dinner or if you can cook pancakes or your partner’s favorite food. Then you can start with that, those simple things will mean much more to your partner, even if he/she does not show it to you right. Because the funny thing about giving gifts, there will be an unseen pressure to your partner that he/she has to somehow top it like “Wow, that was a good one. I’ve got to top that!”
Trust. Trust and Love. That’s all you need to complete your tools for a better relationship(in my opinion). Do the right thing, having somebody to trust and somebody who trusts you back are the two great things that you can have in this world. It motivates you to do better and as a man, it will make you feel like your Superman.
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