I’ve been holding it in…

It’s not a fart, okay?

So yeah! I know that I have not been diary-ing my life through blogs the past few days or weeks but there’s a very good reason. I have 2 jobs, 2 children, businesses, and my schooling in the College of Law. 

It’s hard to balance things out. 

So that’s what I’m going to you about today! Oh yes, this is the one topic that I get to experience everyday because as a family man, a “businessman” of 2, an online web developer, an aspiring app developer, a student of law, you just have to find balance in all of the things that are good to your life. 

I mean mine not you, of course. 

This small things that I do will or might improve your skills of managing your time, budget your time as well as I struggle with it. But at the end of the day, I do accomplish a lot of stuff, I mean a whole of stuff that I can’t imagine that I can do when I was younger. Now that I think about it, I’m still blessed with some kind of a strong mind that could handle with this stress, and the curly hair that still has no white hair. But the face! My face! I know it got old fast, 3 years ago they wouldn’t even guess that my face and body is as old as I am. Now.. now? I’m 5 years older than I look and my body is rusty. I still do the same routine exercises but it doesn’t work like the past. 

So here are some tips to manage your stress!

Exercise. Having a sound body almost always gives you a sound mind. 

Eat. Pray. Love. Is a movie. Eating is one way to get your mind off the work that has piled up on you. But also remember that eat proportionately, you don’t want to pass your stress with food and eat your body away. 

Focus. I have trouble with this because my mind wanders. I have a very imaginative mind and I take myself to places where I haven’t been before. But in everything you do, focus, once you get your mind around that. Excellence!

Budget. Budget this, budget that! You’ll heat a lot of this in my blog because I studied business administration in my undergrad. Now that I have evolved into something like myself, it’s kinda weird being an IT, Business grad and hopefully a lawyer soon. Managing your time well will ultimately be your greatest asset when you do have a lot of things to do, if you can’t do it now. Do it right away the next day, don’t stop and never stop doing this and once you get the hang of it. Everything will fall into place and at its place for you, your life, your family, businesses, work and a whole of stuff.

Taking Notes. Yup! Take down notes, noted? Just keep note of anything new or something has tickled your mind. Say it, chant it, sing it and make it happen! 

There is nothing in this world that just gives you some inspiration, you have to go find it yourself or maybe hear it yourself. Once you do get that tingle, that “Yes I can” moment. You got it, you got yourself the tools to succeed in life. 

See you next time in this blog SomeDay soon!

Congrats!!!

So yeah! Just heard that we had 20 bar passers on our school! That’s great cause that doesn’t happen often, enough. The school of law almost went down with the low rating we had the past couple of bat exams.

Great job for the bar passers and attorneys! And most specially great job for the professors who taught them well!
God Bless!

How to be someone else

Love the team, hate the management

So yeah! Sometimes on somedays I want to be someone else. Does it help my cause of being a better version of myself? Yes? I don’t know. But here’s the thing, nobody is going to notice it and they’ll view that as you being you. 

Weirdly.

Now I’m not the best example of being a unique person. I try to emulate what my dad is doing, up to now he is still doing something for us. For me, my dad is the single-best-super-human being in my mind. He is simply my hero as a child up to now.

However, no matter how much I try to impress my dad. I can’t seem to live up to expectation. Because I know deep inside that I’m not perfect and I do make a lot of mistakes. Even I am kidding myself with the word “a lot”, because that’s an understatement. I make even more than that.

Believe me. 

So enough about that, let’s talk about sports! Yup, that’s where I’m good at. Have you ever heard of people yelling out “Curry!”, “Kobe!”, and a lot more. I’m a fan of all the NBA players. But I try to be like them when we play basketball like once a week for 2-3 hours under the hot sun. That’s good emulation if only I was a little bit taller then I could have competed at a higher level here. But the sad truth is, I didn’t. The talent and skills are there but the height that is required here to play on a higher level, well NO.

Anyway, I’m sad enough as it is. But that doesn’t stop me from yelling names of old NBA players who I tried to emulate when I was younger and I tell you I have talent though I got old and slow and PHAT, okay?! I’m a dad, okay! No excuses, I did let myself go for a little and put on “some” weight. Which means that my leap is not as high anymore, I’m slower, can’t bend as much, but I make do with my power and skill. 

Another day another blog. See you on the next blog SomeDaySoon!

About our house

So yeah! About our house.. small, cute, petite and what not. Like really small for our big family. Less than 30 square meters. 

Maybe because of a design flaw or just the way we liked it. The walls are thin, the ceiling can be reach when I tip-toe. I’m not even tall, I’m only 5’9″. With that height, I can scratch the ceiling(for fun). Everything is at an arm’s reach! Which is convenient and our tv which is as big as our wall. It’s easy to manage and very easy to arrange the stuff in it. Like, this is not even an exaggeration, one step to the table, sofa, ref, tv, toilet and just about 3 steps to the bedroom, 5 steps to the closet. And mind you, we have a walk-in closet. A walk-in closet that is bigger than any section of our house. 

I’m not complaining but this is our house and I love our house. My kids grew up here and this is the place we call home. 

We almost had to vacate this place because of the leaky roof, the small of cat poop at the roof beside our house, and a lot of leaky faucets and sinks. 

I just love our house! My kids’ pictures on the walls, a couple of paper cut-out birds and a cage, mirrors on the walls to make the illusion of a bigger house, posters of cartoons, a lot of windows but still very hot(I don’t know why), toys scattered in each and every corner of the house. It’s like a house built for kids. 

But no matter how much I love this house, we have to somehow make it bigger because our family and kids are getting bigger.

(Sigh)

What I want as our house/building


What our house looks like compared to that building. We’re not rich or have enough money to be in those flat or a bigger apartment. 

But I’m very thankful for everything that we have right now and I think that if I changed something differently, everything would be different as well. I won’t have my wife and kids today, and that’s something that I can’t live without. I love my family and our house. 

A house is not a home when you’re just there alone. Not contented with life. 

Overactive Imagination

So yeah! I’ve been imagining things again. The past, how it happened and how it affects the way I am today. There are things that we wished to have happened differently now that you’re all grown up and know better. I am one those people who wish to have done differently when I was younger, The “I should have done that! I should have done this!”. But it doesn’t mean that I don’t like the life I have right now. I love my life right now, my wife and kids, are the best thing that ever happened to me. Some people, I’m one of those, who also thinks that I should have done this or that to have given myself the right state of mind and in the right some sort of right financial strategy to better take care of my family. Honestly, I could have been one of those, What could have been, the potential is almost limitless. But to think that, I would be like this, like a fly on the wall. I never did measure up to what was expected of me, I’ve never had any regrets to anything that I’ve done in the past. I am proud of what I am, I am proud that I have my own family at a young age. I can take care of my family, well not the best dad, but I try to be the best dad to my kids everyday, the best friend and best husband to my wife., the best brother to my brother and sister, the best son to my parents. People may love me or hate me the way I am, but I chose to be like this. This is the way I am, the past, the present, and the future, this is the path I chose and this is my life is destined to be.

This is me. (not the song)

Definitions

So yeah! Definitions! It’s the science of how we define things in our everyday life. Why do we do it? I don’t know. But do we need it? Yes! So let’s define one word or phrase or some kinda jumbled up word.

False Accomplishments.

False and Accomplishment. Totally opposite words. But what about it? How do you define it? For me, of course this is my blog and topic for today, it is something you wanted to do but nobody ever saw you do it. This means you did something unbelievable and it turns out to be really unbelievable. What a cruel world we live in, right? Yes? No? Alright. Let’s dig in deep to this word some more! Here we go!

I’ll give an example, you and your partner, had a recent falling out period and on this period. You decided to smoke again(if you’re a smoker that is, I’m not btw), just something to brag about with your friends, tough guy talk, but did you really win with the falling out period because you went back smoking? Nope. But did it feel good, for yourself esteem maybe. Face it, your ego was hurt by the falling out period and that’s why you did that. I, for one, do this sometimes. But I do drink liquor so so so far in between, I mean I like drinking but I don’t like to wake up the next morning feeling worse than what I felt before that.

False accomplishments are often petty and are just temporary boosts to your ego, but it does not change the fact that I, we, you, are built to do the right thing in the end. Maybe these false accomplishments just represents what you wanted but what you really need it someone to notice you. A cry for help, perhaps? No, I think it’s deeper than that. I want you to carry on about your life like what you were meant to do. Wo-Man Up!

Slacking..

So yeah! I have not been posting much blogs the past few days but I’m not slacking though.. I write on my phone app but for some reason, when I save what I’ve wrote it did not save as unpublished or as a draft. So it’s all gone now, I have to remember it all for the meantime. I mean they’re not high quality articles but those are some things that I wanted to share to you, my reader. I do care about you and I want to provide as much content/blog everyday.

Thank you for still reading and liking this blog! See you on the next blog SomeDay Soon!

Meme Day!

So yeah! Today we’ll be looking at a meme. This time it’s called ¬†umm.. I’ll call it keeping his promise or keeping true to your word. In this picture where the caption is “Whatever you do to my daughter, I will do to you”. So in that note, he hugged her daughter so her dad hugged him the same way. So the list goes on.. keep it yourself and your imagination and just keep it that way!

Have fun! Always remember that a picture can tell a thousand words and a thousand meanings!

 

photo grabbed from: 9gag.com

Slow days

So yeah! Slow days! Do you ever have that feeling that days are so slow? And sometimes days or hours are so fast? Yeah. That’s right. I know how you feel.

Going back to the first question I made. The days, the hours, and the minutes seems so slow-moving that it’s dragging. And do you know why? I don’t. But I do have an explanation and here it is. The main reason time slows down in your perspective is that it has the element of anticipation, it has the element of looking unto the future, perhaps, but it’s mostly anticipation in my case.

Time slows down for me when there is something I look forward to but it’s on like after 2 or more week. The first week of waiting, my Gosh! I tell you, it’s going to be the longest 7 days, 168 hours, 1,080 minutes of my life! It’s like when you first heard of the plans for a trip or something will arrive to you or for you. Tick tock! Time slows down. The 7 days becomes a constant reminder of your agony waiting for those few days to pass by. Anyway, yes! Anticipation is the cause of misery when time slows down.

While I am ranting how time slows down, there is also a way to speed things up. Do you know how? I know how! It’s stress. Stress makes you old. I look older now than I look before and it’s been only 3 years since I look younger than my age. Right now, I look like a mess. I look old(er). Stress gets you that way like these: deadlines, not sleeping, bills, money problems, irregular sleep schedules of the kid(s) you have, pollution, weather, and a lot more that makes you stress. It will pump your blood with nonsense. Well, not totally nonsense but it makes your fill up with misery that you will eventually

The benefits of a Good Relationship

So yeah! Today I’m going to talk about the benefits of a good and healthy relationship. A good relationship does not always mean to your partner but also to all the other people around you. Like your family, kids, friends, and to whomever you have a close relationship. These are some of the tips that I want to share with you, my reader/s:

 

Trust-worthy. You should be true to your word. Never going back to your words, always remember that your words are what represents you and your personality.

Admit mistakes. I know I know, you don’t make mistakes but if you do and when you do. You should apologize and just admit your mistakes. Admitting that you were wrong takes a lot of courage and humility perhaps, that could save your relationship. But that’s the thing, right? Apologizing is that HARD!

When you do apologize don’t start to blame the other person whom you’re apologizing because that does not work.

Listen. Just listen and be a friend. Listening takes skill and patience, when you get stuck with one person telling you something that is very deep and important to him/her. Just listen, endure and relate. Why? Because you’re human, and he/she is human and who can he/she relate to? Nobody but you. That’s why!

Encourage. When that person is down. You should come and pick him/her up. Nobody like a downer, a simple words of encourage could come a long way. It will not only encourage him/her but he/she will thank you for that in the future. Maybe not in words but in actions, you’ll have a deeper relationship with him/her because of that.

Support. Every person who has ever had friends, family, wife and kids has that time when he/she has a “lost moment”. Having a lost moment usually happens when he/she can’t decide. We all have that, and some people ask other people for advice. Advice, what a weird thing to say other people when you yourself also does not know what to do when that time comes. Anyway, when you do give advice, you’d think that they’ll follow what you’re saying but nope! They don’t! So what you’ll do is, this usually happens when you do give advice: You give your advice addressing the problem and by gosh that was good advice. Some of the best advice that you will ever give one person in your standards. They listen attentively, but do they do it? No, they don’t. Because when they do ask for advice, they have already set their plans/advice for themselves. So what will you do in your end? Yup, that’s right. Support them, just support them with whatever they do.

Communication. Constant communication, communicating with other people are one of the few things that are somewhat enjoyable. Like asking, “How’s it doing, How’s life treating you? What are you doing now for livelihood, money, family, children?”. You can even hear gossip that you don’t give a what about. Communicate with other people. There’s no other way other than that. Communicate by email, text, call, or any other modes you have. That will create a “bridge” that you may have forgotten from your past relationships.
That’s all for today! See you next time!

Sunday Breaks!

So yeah! I had to have breaks on a Sunday because, here in our house. Sunday’s are family days! We take our time every Sunday to reflect on the week and we go to church. But this Sunday was special, because my wife cooked dinner for us! It’s a “shabu-shabu”. These are some of the pictures that were taken:

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Some veggies, I mean one single vegetable is added to our “shabu-shabu”. It’s called “pechay” here cause I forgot what is the english word for it. Anyway, she mixed in crab sticks, crab balls, and urchin balls. Which is soooo good!

We started with this!
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1 chicken cubes for 4 glasses of water, minced garlic and sliced onions and extra virgin oil. We try to be healthy. First, you have to  saute the garlic to have the garlic-y taste for the soup. Because we love garlic! We like the smell and taste of it.

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After the garlic-y has been properly toasted, she added 4 glasses of water with chicken cubes and also the onion slices. The chicken cubes has to be melted through the boiling water. We use an induction cooker by the way if you’re wondering what that “800” is indicating.

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After that, it’s the most easiest thing! She just boiled all the ingredients, the balls and the crab meat are sent to a boil until cooked. After it’s cooked, she just put it in the single vegetable, “pechay”, and waited for it to be a little wilted on the boiling water. After all that process, she woke me up and I ate the 2 bowls of it. Yummy and healthy!
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Oh by the way, the noodles are colored because it’s a different kinds of vegetable noodles. Carrots, Malunggay, Egg, among others. It’s good, any one of you should try it!

Have you achieved what you wanted for your life?

So yeah! Today’s blog is going to be about achievements, successes, accomplishments that I had in my life in the present. And the answer is NO! It’s a big phat no, well yes, I did accomplish “things” in life. But the deep-rooted “WANT” that I really want to achieve has not yet been fully achieved, and that is to be a practicing lawyer, a businessman, and to travel other countries with my family. I am getting older and “wiser” as they say, but that doesn’t change the fact that I haven’t achieved anything that I want in life.

I aspire for bigger things and life, and I can’t stop dreaming, dreaming BIG! is the main thing and I think the main purpose of a person who is living. I think that, the moment you stop dreaming is the time that you ended your “life” and your “existence” is not needed in this life.

It doesn’t mean that you’re dead or anything, it just means that since you don’t have something look forward to then there is no getting excited everyday because you know in yourself that you’re doing this thing that you do for something.

There are things in my life that I had to put on hold because my family needs me. I kept thinking that, since I am young then, I can just go back to chasing my dreams once my family gets settles. I did go back to chasing those dreams and I think that I’m on the right track. The problem is that, I am getting old FAST! I keep thinking to myself that there is always some silver lining to this! It’s taking a big toll on me, not on my family because my classes are at least at nights when my family is resting. I’m out here hustling and trying hard not to fail.

Well, the simple truth is that I know I can still do things! I am not that old but I’m getting to that point but not right now! You know what I mean? I still have time because the real end-goal that I want for myself is to become a legislator in my country. That’s the ultimate dream, yup, I’m no dummy. I have plans and ideas for my country to be great and I just want to be in the mix of things in the government.

That’s it! It’s a start for this kinds of blogs, May I ask anyone of you reading this. What have you done in your life right now that is brag-worthy? What is your ultimate goal?